Sams little world

First of all thank you for coming here to read my blogs. I haven't posted for a long time now and believe I will be more consistent going forward.  I joined a new organization 2 days back and it feels like the best decision I have taken in a while. I believe we must all keep looking for growth in all aspects of life. Be it career or health or emotional growth. Sometimes you get stuck in a loop of doing things and no matter how much you work hard you are never appreciated or more problems arise. A similar situation happened to me in life where I felt no amount of work is getting me out of this loop.  I had some really crappy work surrounded by tough people to handle. When I decided to switch my job for monetary and other reasons it was very hard to get any interview calls.  The key here is to keep believing. I never believed because market is bad and stuff but my husband kept constantly applying to jobs on my behalf. I had some mental breakdowns due to the work wherein I h...

  This post is just to change your narrative on health if you have been feeling sick or being called a sick person all the time. I would like to explain this using my life story. I have been the most adventure loving fun person I know throughout my life but I stopped believing this narrative and started feeling sick and lazy and it all started during the onset of covid. If you would have known me before this phase you would have rarely seen me sick. I would have cried a few times because of teen life crisis but it had nothing to do with my health. Even on family trips to hills I have never felt nauseated. During the 8 months of being a fresher I had lot of freedom and money to buy and eat things I want and there were times I used to eat 2 small size pizzas around 10:30 pm. It dint do anything to me but the results showed up during locked down where I gained around 8 kgs. I had work for the entire day during this fresher phase and my onset of frequent headaches started. This is when...

That's me. And I prefer doing whatever I like be it going on trips or hitting the gym or doing my office work or cooking. 1.  Cooking  -  Assumption that women must cook despite having busy careers. Dont get me wrong. Infact, I love trying out new dishes occasionally. But the phone call I had received from my relative the other day made me question this. They were constantly interested in what Im cooking or if I learnt to cook the dal gravy. I faced a similar incident at the gym. Our trainer asked me to cook more protein rich food for my husband and feed him regularly. Though meant in a humorous way, the underlying meaning kind of made me feel sad. The fact that nobody would say this to a husband made me question. Cooking is a life skill. It is a choice. We can always hire someone. We might develop interest in cooking once we start living on our own. We must also stop judging someone for their food choices. When I say I make protein pancakes or wheat semiya or masala oats...

We meet a lot of people in our lives. Some like us while some hate us. But we must have met someone whom we despise and would do whatever it takes to avoid talking to that person. If we see them somewhere in public or in family functions we hide and wait for them to leave. I have had these people in my life and continue to meet such people in the present as well. Some reasons that I find very unattractive in a conversation 1. Asking too much personal information - We randomly meet a person in some event or function and they start asking everything that is there about you. This really puts things off and we tend to view that person as nosy and annoying. I'm sure we will meet these people atleast once in our lifetime. 2. Advising people we just met - I have been there and done that. Now I cringe when I think about it. Because of social media we have an illusion that we know someone even without meeting them a single time in real life. Eg: I have never met some of my husbands frien...

  It's been 2 years and there is a lot to share but I'll try to keep it simple. Meanwhile I hope you can take away some good things from here. WEDDING STORY: I had an arranged marriage as many of you know. The first time I met him I did not overthink it. He just looked calm and quiet (maybe shy or awkward). It was my first time that a prospective groom came to our house. I had nothing in my head. It was around April 2021. My sister said ‘he didn't look at you straight and maybe he isn't interested in the wedding’. I felt the same because when our families discussed future aspirations he said he wanted to do MBA and was waiting for results from IIM Lucknow. At that time I felt that if he converts IIM Lucknow, how will I go and live there for the next 2 years? I din't want to resign from my job. So we just waited for his results and he got rejected from IIML. It was sad but this is what led to our wedding 😂.  FIGHTS: Our fights were crazy back in the day. It was new ...

This is a taboo topic in India. I stayed with my parents till 12th grade. Then I moved to college for the next 4 years. Even while I was in college I wasn't practically alone because I had room mates and the same thing happened after I joined work as I stayed in working women's hostel. Then covid happened and I got married during covid and moved to his parents place. Our own space there was our room. Then 10 months later we shifted to Bangalore for study and work reasons and it was the first time in my life that I got an entire space to myself. My husband got his own space inside his college (A single room). While I stayed with my parents my job was to just take care of myself, eat and study. When I moved to hostel I had to tackle my laundry as well. Same happened in working women's hostel but extra responsibility was to pay my rent, tackle my finances and travel. Cooking became an extra part of our schedules wherein we make dishes occasionally. Each and every step of this ...