Handling emotions

Sometimes people have a tough time handling their emotions. It comes from a certain point where you expect something to happen a certain away and it doesn't happen and that shit affects you and makes you sad. Sometimes we don't really tell the people who hurt us, the reason your hurt and try to hide it within yourself think it's going to complicate things for you but the truth is the opposite. Well still we might have second thoughts about confronting the person but I think we need to say it out or in worst case when you think its highly impossible to speak out you can ignore because its good for both.

When we are sad or angry or upset we actually don't realise what we speak and end up blabbering things which I think I do and when I look back at those things I said I know that I blabbered. So its better to stay quiet when your feeling too emotional and calm yourself down before going out there to speak your heart out.

Need to remember a few things here. It's good to share your problems with others but sometimes when your sad and you explain the trouble to people who care about you, you obviously end up explaining the problem in an amplified away than it actually is and you get bombarded with opinions and loose track of the initial emotion you felt when you faced the problem. So first calm down and analyse what you feel and make the right decision about speaking out and don't talk until your emotionally stable and ready. Remember nothing is bigger than your peace of mind and stay calm.

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